if you don’t believe fetishizing homosexuality is a problem, take a look at what mass media has done to lesbianism through out the eighties until now: propagated the idea that it’s a “kinky” side adventure for men to enjoy in a heterosexual relationship but not a real lifestyle, how many times you’ve heard someone ask you or your female partner or you’ve heard or seen someone ask a lesbian and her partner “can i watch?” and then ask you/them invasive personal questions as though a lesbian relationship is public domain. it’s been taught en masse that these relationships are public domain and only exist specifically as temporary, exotic bedroom activities.
think about that; how many instances in pop culture there are of undermining the reality of these relationships by demeaning them as less than real. there are examples of married men in any number of films, specials,and television programs flippantly ask their wives to invite another woman into the bedroom to “spice things up” or fulfill their fantasy with no more reaction to the request than a joking, snide comment, treating the relationships as comedy, female pop stars making out with other female pop stars for shock value and ratings, participating in these things flippantly, and acting as though they’re less deserving of the respect that their heterosexual counterparts earn because they’re not serious, just theatrics.
then look at male homosexuality, how the media today is beginning to do the EXACT same thing to those relationships, promoting queerbaiting and playing up subtext to make commercial profit, and tell me just how you believe it’s not a problem when it’s this kind of debasement and dismissal of these relationships as serious and real that is contributing to everyone in a committed homosexual relationship having their sincerity called into question and their rights debated over while they have to fight tooth and nail to prove that they’re not acting or lying because the idea that homosexuality is an actual sexuality and not a heterosexual’s invented bedroom fantasy flies in the face of nearly everything you hear, watch, or read.
“it sometimes seems that the distribution of wages is, to a first approximation, the exact inverse of the social utility of work. Thus the workers closest to our most fundamental needs—food and shelter—are non-unionized residential construction workers and migrant fruit pickers, lucky to even earn the minimum wage. At the same time, bankers are given millions for the invention and trade of sophisticated credit derivatives, even though most of their work is equivalent to—and as we’ve now discovered, quite a bit more destructive than—betting on the outcome of the Super Bowl.”—Hipsters, Food Stamps, and the Politics of Resentment (via denyinghipster)
“In far too many states, those who have been forced into commercial sex are the ones who are prosecuted when they get caught. And those who exploit these people, either by buying or selling them, are rarely prosecuted. This creates a situation where those who are coerced can barely tell the difference between their abuser and the state. From their perspective, at least their abuser offers love and support alongside the abuse. If we want to make a difference in the lives of those who are coerced into commercial sex, we need to make certain that they are supported, not punished. And we need to make sure that exploitation is one of the riskiest things that people can do.”—
Everyone please research the organization GEMS: Girls Education & Mentoring Services. From their website:
“Girls Educational & Mentoring Services (GEMS) is the only organization in New York State specifically designed to serve girls and young women who have experienced commercial sexual exploitation and domestic trafficking. GEMS was founded in 1998 by Rachel Lloyd, a young woman who had been commercially sexually exploited as a teenager. GEMS has helped hundreds of young women and girls, ages 12–24, who have experienced commercial sexual exploitation and domestic trafficking to exit the commercial sex industry and develop to their full potential. GEMS provides young women with empathetic, consistent support and viable opportunities for positive change.”
I don’t see how whenever a POC makes a post about their experiences, someone feels the need to derail it and make it about themselves or some other issue (gay rights, feminism, etc). It’s simple logic, really. Let’s compare racism to sports.
I don’t play baseball. I’ve seen a few games, bought a few trading cards, and I know a few people that are super into it. But I would never hop on a post about baseball and say *“well, I play tennis so I know how annoying it is when the other tribute gets a touch down and has to shoot from the tardis using the baseball Dumbledore gave me from Camp half-blood.” I know better. Because I don’t play baseball. I don’t understand what it’s like to play baseball, I don’t identify as a baseball player, or even really understand all of the rules. So why would I feel the need to say anything at all?
*this is how most white people sound to POC when they derail a post
“The thing about cultural appropriation is that it takes away a person’s cultural identifiers and gives them to everyone.”—
I dig this quote so much because it sums up exactly why cultural appropriation is so problematic. People within a culture learn cues that tell us how to find others like us. When you (from outside) take those things and misuse them, it is confusing at best and disrespectful at worst. The power that social cue once held is now fashionable option for anyone who has that fancy. Once again, when am I allowed to have ownership of my own communities without people coming in like, “Oooh, that’s cool! I’ll take two please!”
but why not borrow things from other cultures, particularly food? Plus I wouldnt be Orthodox if I DIDNT learn to deny my own culture a bit and Im more than thankful for that. I appreciate other cultures I dont see why people are adamant about cultural appropriation I think we should all imbibe a world appreciation.
How the hell do you borrow something without asking??? That’s called stealing last time I checked. And if you ask and motherfuckers say no, that’s called manifest destiny. AKA THEFT. AKA APPROPRIATON.
Nobody needs you to appreciate they shit. Your outside approval was not needed. They were already appreciating it before you showed up, booboo. Then you got greedy hands and wrote your name on it and try to tell someone it’s because it was SO AWESOME that you had to touch all over it?
You know its people like you that make me hate this website Stop being so childish Kthanxbai
The thing about cultural appropriation is that a lot of people think it’s a purely negative thing and act like the world is an entirely static place. Things that could potentially be considered “culturally appropriated” include most technologies (what if North America put up a stink every time somebody outside of our culture used electricity or cars?), art forms, religions (many modern religions are based on older variants from outside cultures), ideas (like algebra), and medications. It’s all sort of a part of living in a globalized world. Sometimes that’s a negative thing, but isn’t there always a trade off to stuff like this?
I keep forgetting there are people of color who think that white people face racism. Who think that white privilege isn’t a thing. Who are buying all the lies of white supremacy and don’t even realize it. Who are so stuck in philosophical possibilities and dictionary definitions, that they aren’t aware of how the real world works. Sure hypothetically speaking, in an alternate universe that has a different history than the world we live in, white people could face racism. Or in the future, where people of color gain control of the world and set up our own rules white people could face racism. But the fact is that in this world, in this time, white people don’t face racism. Sigh. I don’t even know what to do with you folks. I really don’t. —nappyedges
I’m writing this post in response to a question someone posed me (see below), but also because it’s something that I’ve believed and wanted to talk about for a pretty long time now. Before you tell me I don’t know what I’m talking about - I’ve seen every single episode of the show ever aired.
I realize that a bunch of you may like and enjoy the show - please don’t take this as a personal condemnation that you’re a racist for watching, just please read what I have to say carefully and examine the harmful stereotypes that are so prevalent in one of the most popular shows on TV today.
I’m going to start out with one very specific example which is incredibly typical of the show, and then I’m going to go into character profiles of Raj (the Indian character) and Howard (the Jewish character) and what exactly is racist about the way they’re written.
Here’s a piece of dialogue from the Season 5 opener. Penny (White woman) got drunk with Raj (Indian man), and they passed out and woke up in his bed. It should be noted that they’ve been friends for the last four years. She thinks they may have slept together, and confides in her friend Bernadette (White woman)
Amy: Do you know the story of Catherine the Great?
Amy: She ruled Russia in the 1700’s and one night when she was feeling particularly randy she used an intricate system of pulleys to have intimate relations with a horse.
Penny: I’m sorry, what does this have to do with me?
Amy: She engaged in inter-species hanky panky and people still call her great. I’m sure your reputation can survive you shagging a little Indian boy.
Do you see what’s wrong there (aside from the historical inaccuracy, Queen Catherine didn’t actually fuck horses)? Hint: they compared bestiality to “shagging a little Indian boy.”
That’s right, children, interracial fucking is the same as bestiality.
Oh and the fun doesn’t stop there - later in the episode, Penny runs into Raj, and this dialogue happens:
Raj: As your friend, you might want to know that we didn’t have sex in the conventional sense.
Penny: Oh God, did you pull some weird Indian crap on me?
Yes, Penny, that’s right. All Indian people must be perverts because of the Kama Sutra. Good thing you didn’t let him defile your pure White woman body.
(Below, I shift from the very specific to the incredibly broad - if you want more specific examples, they’re only a Google search away.)
For what reason I need to give a shit about white people?
Sometimes I don’t even say anything about white people, except that I don’t give a shit. I don’t have to pay attention to anybody I don’t feel like paying attention to.
Also, to say that white people can feel the effects of racism based on being white is a fallacy, within a white supremacist framework (which Western cultures function within) white people cannot be systematically disadvantaged based on their whiteness. There’s a whole host of other ways in which white people can be disempowered within Western culture, their being white is not one of them.
And I reiterate, I don’t give a shit.
White people should feel bad about being in a racist world. There’s a very precise difference between what I try to do (disregard) and what a racist world does to non-white bodies (destroy). I’m not out to “hurt” people, my attention just doesn’t need to go there, and I don’t need to expend energy to further white supremacist agendas, and I WILL put my energy into improving and promoting the lives and work of POCs. Racism is harmful to everyone, and what I do is not racist, it is focusing my energy in a different direction. I don’t need to apologize for not expending my energy on making white people feel good about being white. If they want to feel good about being white they can look everywhere else in the world and feel validated and empowered. Why should I waste my beautiful brown energy making them feel good.
It’s not my business if people want to think I’m some arbiter of cool and me not caring hurts them. Because I. Don’t. Care. and that’s not really saying shit except I don’t see you.
Ask a few damn questions. Read a book. JESUS. And maybe, just maybe, you can’t do everygotdamnthing.
GET OVER IT.
I love stuff from other cultures too. Some shit I’m allowed to use/own. I know this because they sell it to consumers. They give it away. They encourage people to try it. That’s called cultural exchange. Some shit ain’t for sale. I know because it’s fiercely protected by people in that group. So I look at the pretty pictures, appreciate it and MOVE THE FUCK ON.
And ya’ll talking about medicine and cars and shit being appropriation from white people. ARE YOU ON ALL OF THE CRACK? Do you really think ya’ll did that shit by yourselves???
Oh right. You do. Because anything you like, you take credit for and make it yours. CUZ YOU AN APPROPRIATING MOTHERFUCKER.
These are the best GOP rape quotes I could find - but message me if you have more! Let’s hold these people accountable.
1.Todd Akin: “If it’s a legitimate rape, the female body has ways of shutting that whole thing down” -mid 2012 Senate Campaign
2.Claytie Williams: “If it’s inevitable, just relax and enjoy it” -mid 1990 Gubernatorial race in Texas
3. Chuck Winder: “I would hope that when a woman goes in to a physician with a rape issue, that physician will indeed ask her about perhaps her marriage, was this pregnancy caused by normal relations in a marriage or was it truly caused by a rape. I assume that’s part of the counseling that goes on.” -March 2012
4. Ken Buck: “A jury could very well conclude that this is a case of buyer’s remorse … It appears to me … you invited him over… the appearance is of consent.” -October 2010
5. Rick Santorum: “I think the right approach is to accept this horribly created — in the sense of rape — but nevertheless a gift in a very broken way, the gift of human life, and accept what God has given to you… rape victims should make the best of a bad situation.” - January, 2012
it’s incredible to think that a person of color is looked down upon if they don’t cheerfully accept casual racism & microaggressions. like if I’m out in public and a white person says something “casually” racist me getting visibly angry or upset on any level would seem more out of line than what that person just said.
The color of your skin, who you like to fuck, and what hangs between your legs have absolutely no bearing on whether or not you deserve the right to life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness. This is not up for discussion and I refuse to discuss it.
Racist, fetishizing logic: My right to “appreciate”, fap and objectifying you is more important to me than you do as a person. I really don’t give a fuck if you find it uncomfortable. I don’t see how it’s racist or dehumanizing it is to engage in this behaviour. In fact, you’re the racist for not letting me fap over you.
If you abide by this brand of logic and defend it please choke on bleach.
“Our society tends to assume everyone is heterosexual until proven homosexual. Two people in an other-sex relationship are assumed to be straight; two people in a same-sex relationship are assumed to be gay/lesbian. The truth is, however, that a person in either of these relationships could be bisexual/pansexual, and this possibility is rarely recognized in general society.”—